An Uncharacteristic Moment of Sanity

Last weekend may have been the most difficult so far in my young life.

Things really came to a head with boys as their mother sold the house that they live in and amped up her threats to move them north to Bellingham. I'll spare the world all the details, just say that in no uncertain terms she has made it clear in their minds that they have to move because of me.

My youngest mentioned how Bill Gates and I are very much alike, we both are really rich, but he shares his money and I keep it all to myself.

Now, if you know me at all, you probably know that while I may spend money like I am, I'm not rich, and I don't believe that any of this conversation is something that should be had with an 8 year old. Kids should be kids, Financial issues should never come to mind. And certainly dirty laundry between parents should stay between parents, it should never be used as a wedge between parents and children. (I understand that this is my blog- and I get to be one sided - but people get divorced. And no matter what anyone thinks, its never just one persons fault. You would think some people would pick that up in a years worth of marriage counseling)

Anyway, lets just say it was a long weekend and leave it at that.

Anyhoo, back to the moment of clarity. In a stunner, the crazy person that is my ex wife somehow realized that she in fact could afford to live in the city, (especially after walking away with what I imagine will be around 300K from selling the family home - I say imagine because 1- I really don't want to know, and 2- The kids were instructed not to tell me - I didn't ask, but that did come up) 

So I'm getting tired of writing, but for all of you out there who may be concerned. They kids are staying put. (In a bizarre twist that I won't share with them- they now only live about two blocks from my-ICE. The crazy bitch need not know where she lives) They have found a great new place that the boys are really excited to move into. One that fits a family their size so much better than what they had before. ( Not many 16 year-olds want to share a bedroom with a 9 year old) 

The looming threat for the last year has gone away, and apparently I do pay her too much for her to get public assistance, even in Bellingham they don't give it to people who make enough to have a house, a car, HBO,  and all their groceries and dinners delivered. 

Gin Hahn,

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